What to wear, what to wear... Oh My! Picking out the right outfit is time consuming when where you are going is important to you. Slanging hangers to and fro, finding out what size you really are when grunting and pulling and buttoning take place (large or small), and ensuring that you feel as good as you look, this is what matters most, feeling as good as you look. Do clothes define you, well they damn sure make a difference in who approaches you and how they do so... or not. In the book, Ladies Are Hustlers Too, I had the honor of being one of several literary guest authors and my chapter, chapter 2 was righfully so entitled: Image Is Everything. With a modeling (runway) background, and having a knack for fashion, I always knew to "invest into my look and the investment will yield a profitable return", without all the philisophical mumbo jumbo, it means you get free stuff for being beautiful, yes, even from women. So all I had to do was look my best and receive the rest. Being, looking, feeling and acting beautiful has awarded me "in" a many of doors. I had to get comfortable with this due to my mother forever warning me as I have matured into womanhood, "Beauty is a handicap". I ride a short PINK bus whereever I go, so yes, Mother was right.
Beauty is a dual if not multi curse/blessing. You will be hated for it and loved for it, others will expect it and disrespect it, some will award you, others will demote you, etc. Beauty is not in the eye of the beholder, it is the actual eye.
PERCEPTION
What women go through to be beautiful is ridiculous, yet the rituals persist. Will your beauty attract a man or the eye of the man? Yes, but will it keep him? No. Beauty only gets you so far, therefore outfitting it may be a bit more time cosuming because with looks either you have them or you don't. Face it, looks (outside) are genetically distributed and have no true value in who gets them and who does not. It can be some or one in an entire family at any given point. What are you going to offer besides beauty (inside & out)?
When in doubt, dress it up. I went to college with a young lady who walked around the campus as though the beauty queen contest was started by her, and her alone. She was not the prettiest bulb on the tree, but she had this attitude about her that made you look, and no it was not an immature game, it was the real deal. She was sexy in her mind, therefore her actions and ways were too. She knew her genetics were not all the way in her favor, but she carried herself in such a way that her "looks" were nice in those clothes, in that walk, in her talk, and her character. You see it all the time, beautiful people with ugly attitudes who become uglier than the ugliest of people and ugly people who you want to personally wrap up and send to a few people as gifts of apprecation. There must be more to it, and it must take place in the imagination. My son always asks, when he sees an ugly man with a beautiful woman, "Mommy why is she with him?" I say because she imagines better things of him. To him, the looks do not add up, therefore the intentions do not either. Think about it when it comes to choosing an outfit.
Ugly person A is wearing a very nice outfit, is nice, and carries themselves with class.
Pretty person A is wearing some ragedy clothes and smells weird.
Now UA is going to get more respect than PA, PA still will get more attention of attraction, but the comfort level goes to UA due to the outfit and imaging factor.
What is the point?
The point is to pick your thoughts like your outfits. No matter how beautiful you are or the circumstance, no matter how ugly you are or the situation, you can still pick your outfit, likewise, pick your thoughts. Your thoughts are to be chosen, not running for office. Your words carry you around. Your actions lead up to how your funeral and what comes thereafter will be. Your intentions show you the truth about yourself.
As in chosing your clothes, pick your thoughts, as in chosing your travels pick your words, as in chosing your legacy pick your actions always accessorize with your intentions - Dr. O.K.
In business you must truly pick your thoughts, words, and actions and always mind your intentions. This takes training some will be endurance, some cardio, some yoga, some weights, some dieting, some nutrition, nevertheless, work it out. Picking your outfits at times may be stressful, fun, therapudic and the same goes for your thougths, but I bet you will look amazing when it is all said & done.
PINK FIRE is wearing our best O.U.T.F.I.T.: ORGANIZE.UTILIZE.TRANSFORM.FUEL.INSPIRE.TEACH
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